The Bondage of People Pleasing

“When we are set free from the bondage of pleasing others,when we are free from currying others approval-then no one will be able to make us miserable or dissatisfied. And then, if we know we have pleased God, contentment will be our consolation. ~Kay Arthur

Right now, the only thing on my mind is VBS and Children's Ministries, so forgive me for constantly chattering on about it. Vacation Bible School isn't quite what it used to be. These days, it's a performance, a show of epic proportions that must "wow" and excite children and parents alike. People have expectations of children's ministries in the 21st century that weren't even imagined in D.L. Moody's day.

So, it's become quite apparent to me that I must keep my focus straight. As I worry over set design and redecorating the Children's wing, I'm often thinking of how everyone else will view my work. Yes, I am doing this as a ministry to parents and kids, but ultimately all my work is for GOD.

It is just too easy to get caught up in worries about everyone else's opinion. For one thing, if I'm doing my work the way everyone else thinks it ought to be done, am I listening for God's direction?

The other problem with people pleasing is that it is bound to end in disappointment. I just can't expect to please everyone all of the time. I wish I could, but someone, somewhere, somehow is going to express displeasure at something that I've done. How will that criticism affect me? If I'm working to please God, not man, then someone else's opinion won't hurt me. But, if I'm trying to please people, I will end up miserable, as Kay Arthur says.

She's hit on the key to contentment here. Seeking God's approval instead of man's brings an inner sense of assurance. And that's something I need to be reminded of on a regular basis. I'm doing this (children's ministry, blogging, writing, motherhood, etc.) for GOD and for His glory alone.

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