When I see goodness, kindness or joy in myself, I recognize it as the overflow of a relationship with Jesus and as a gift from Him. For some reason, the fruit of self-control seems different. Maybe it's just me. I think of it negatively - as in what is lacking instead of what God has given. I also tend to look for things I ought to be doing to increase this fruit in my life.
Why should self-control be any different than peace or love? I cannot manufacture those things in my life - I am fully aware that they come only from living a Spirit-led life. So, instead of trying the next 12 step plan to find self-control, or working out goals for more discipline in my life, I think I'll concentrate on living a Spirit-led life.
The truth is, living a life that is dependant upon the Spirit is the key to living this life in a worthy manner.
1 Peter 1:13 Therefore, prepare your minds for action; be self-controlled; set your hope fully on the grace to be given you when Jesus Christ is revealed.
Be sober (self-controlled) – as opposed to being asleep. Wake up! Live in the daylight and get out of the fog you’re in! We are in a battle and you need to be aware of what’s going on otherwise Satan will trip you up. Keep your eyes wide open and don't let go of the grip of the Spirit's hand leading you on to a grace-filled life.